“I will love you if you do something for me.” That was Matt’s attitude toward my kids. Even in the month before he ended our marriage, he was still using my children to do house projects with him. I always disliked that we only had 4 days each month with them and we rarely did any family activities together. Matt can say that he loves them and treated them as a father, but that is not true. He was more like a coach who instructed them occasionally.